I am 64, and I only swim in my back yard. I am fat and I was a fat kid, and was one of the ones swimming in T shirts as if that somehow disguised my size. They don’t. I read the comment from the person commenting on the similarities he saw between fat people and trans people… he understands neither, believe me.

Even at 64 I am not eager to put my man boobs on public display… they are a source of comedy for some, but for me they just amplify my shame at being so heavy, even after weight reduction surgery 16 years ago. Am I as heavy as I was before the surgery? No. But that is little consolation when you are still 100 lbs overweight. “Just lose the weight!” That is like the non-depressed person telling a depressed person to “lighten up, get a hobby or a pet!” Perhaps well-meaning, but ignorant nonetheless.