The righteous aren’t always right. As for the strange and confusing time, I think most of us could use those words to describe our teen years. As for your mother, I will not judge her. Anyone who thinks that use of alcohol, cigarettes and porn can be squashed by a lecture or a parenting philosophy is naive at best. I am one of three brothers… I am an alcoholic, the other two aren’t; as for cigarettes, none of us smoke even though our dad did. As for porn, I have certainly watched some, and would be willing to bet my brothers are with me in the 73–98% males polled who said they had seen it. The figures are slightly lower for women, but the women are catching up! So, for me, I say bravo Tracey, and also to your mom, who turns out to have been a pretty good parent!